Did you know that every year in the UK almost two million people suffer from domestic abuse?

Abuse can take many forms and it can affect anyone from any background, regardless of their gender or sexuality. One in four women and one in six men will suffer domestic abuse at some time in their lives, and in some cases, this will result in hospitalisation or, sadly, it can even be fatal.

When working in general practice, not only do we need to be aware of signs in our patients that may point towards safeguarding concerns, but it’s important to realise that it could be an issue within our own teams. Having an understanding of what to look for and how to signpost to sources of help can prevent abuse from escalating.

The UK government’s definition of domestic violence is “any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are, or have been, intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. The abuse can encompass, but is not limited to, psychological, physical, sexual, financial, emotional” abuse.

As noted above, domestic abuse can take different forms, including:

• Physical abuse
• Sexual abuse
• Financial abuse
• Coercive and controlling behaviour, and gaslighting/emotional abuse
• Digital/online abuse
• So-called ‘honour-based’ violence
• Forced marriage
• Female genital mutilation (FGM)

Recognising the signs

Domestic abuse victims can be very good at hiding or masking the signs of abuse. The abuser may even attend every appointment with them, making it difficult for you to ask questions and the victim to speak openly. But there are patterns of behaviour and signs you can be aware of, which may highlight the need to investigate further, for example:

• Physical signs – unexplained bruising, falls, injuries inconsistent with the account of what happened, and changes in appearance
• Psychological signs – low self-esteem, isolation from friends and family, withdrawal from social settings, tearfulness, and signs of fear (e.g., silence) in front of some people
• Sexual abuse – genital injuries, STI, torn or stained clothing, or unexpected pregnancy
• Financial abuse – missing personal possessions, rent arrears, missing money from accounts, or changes in living conditions
• Modern slavery – malnourishment, lack of identity documents, withdrawn and/or other physical signs

Signs of unhealthy behaviours in relationships

As a manager, it’s important to be aware that occasionally domestic abuse can occur within your own team. This could happen to anyone in your team, and if you suspect that someone needs support, it’s important to have a policy in place to safeguard your staff, such as: Safeguarding Handbook [PLUS]

Some of the behaviours within a relationship that a staff member may mention to you could include:

• They make threats and do things that make me feel frightened.
• They put me down just to make me feel bad when we’re alone or around friends.
• They make me do things that I don’t want to do without listening to me.
• They make me feel guilty if I don’t spend time with them.
• They don’t try to get on with my friends or family.
• They hit, slap or push me.
• They look through my phone, social media or web history.
• They want to know where I am all the time.
• They cheat on me or accuse me of cheating on them.
• They steal from me or make me buy them things.
• They make me have sex when I don’t want to.

Why do people stay in relationships when they’re experiencing abuse?

There are many different reasons why people stay in relationships when they’re being abused.

They might feel frightened to leave or worry that the person abusing them will try and stop them, and become even more violent. They might also rely on the abuser for practical or financial support or worry about losing their home and access to children.

However, it’s a criminal offence to abuse someone in their own home or anywhere else — whether they’re a partner, a family member or someone else. Whatever the abuser might say, physical and emotional violence like this is never the victim’s fault.

What to do if you’re concerned

If you believe there’s an immediate risk of harm to someone, or it’s an emergency, you should always call 999.

If you’re worried that a friend, neighbour or loved one is a victim of domestic abuse, you can call the National Domestic Abuse Helpline for free and confidential advice, 24 hours a day, on 0808 2000 247.

And here’s a link to the Women’s Aid local support services directory: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/womens-aid-directory/

Ask for ANI codeword

If you’re experiencing domestic abuse and need immediate help, ask for ANI (Action Needed Immediately) in participating pharmacies and Jobcentres (Jobs and Benefits Offices in Northern Ireland).

When you ask for ANI, you will be offered a private space, given a phone and asked if you need support from the police or other domestic abuse support services.

To find your nearest participating provider, search using the postcode checker on the ‘Ask for Ani’ page on the Enough website: https://enough.campaign.gov.uk/get-support/ask-for-ani

Bright Sky app

Bright Sky is a mobile app and website for anyone experiencing domestic abuse, or anyone who’s worried about someone else.

The app can be downloaded for free from the app stores. Only download the app if it’s safe for you to do so and if you’re sure your phone isn’t being monitored.

Remember, if you do suspect that a patient, colleague or friend is being abused, it’s vital to ensure you follow policy and safeguard that individual. You may only have one chance to save someone’s life.

Author – Narinder Sidhu, NS TC Consultancy Services

Useful resources

Safeguarding Handbook [PLUS]
Domestic Abuse Awareness poster [PLUS]

Practice Index Training

Domestic Abuse Awareness
Safeguarding Level 2
Safeguarding Level 3

Learning Package

Safeguarding Adults Level 1
Safeguarding Adults Level 2
Safeguarding Adults Level 3
Safeguarding Children Level 1
Safeguarding Children Level 2
Safeguarding Children Level 3